5 Ways to Overcome Fear and Improve Confidence - Top Motivational Speakers - Phillip Ramphisa

 5 Ways to Overcome Fear and Improve Confidence - Top Motivational Speakers - Phillip Ramphisa

Overcoming fear is one of the greatest challenges that you will face as you learn how to improve your self-esteem and self-confidence.

Imagine that you lived in the 17th century when there were no airplanes and parachutes. Imagine that you lived happily with your family at the top of the mountain until you ran out of food and water. You can see all the water and the food that you need to help your family survive from the top of the mountain. However, to reach the water and food you need to overcome your fear and jump from the mountain top to the ground. You know that when you jump you will dive into the river beneath the mountain and not suffer physical injury. You also know that it will change your life to jump because you will be able to gather all the food and water that your family needs, but you need to overcome the fear and doubt that is holding you back. You also need to overcome questions triggered by fear on your mind and make you anxious, "what if I hit the rock", "What if I find no way to climb back up", "What if... "

Our lives are not too different from this story. We sometimes face difficulties and challenges such as being unhappy at work, being unhappy with our bodies because we picked up weight, toxic relationships and criticism. This results in us being unfulfilled. From this we also experience a low self-esteem and a lack of confidence -: sometimes we know that if we could just take a leap of faith and jump to change our lives our lives could improve, but we remain scared of jumping. Fear and anxiety holds us back. Doubt cripples our attempts.

Overcoming fear is one of the most important skills that you need to learn in your life in order to get unstuck and take your life forward. Fear affects decision making and a lack of decision making power causes poor results. Sometimes because of fear and doubt you might not take the action that you need to change your life.

Fear can manifest itself in many ways, it can cause you to be afraid of something as practical as snakes or heights. However sometimes fear can also affect you in serious life decisions and stop you from taking action to succeed - whether this is starting a new business or quitting a terrible job that does not help you become fulfilled. Here are 5 ways that you can use to overcome fear in your life and unstuck yourself.

1. Realize that fear is not something to be eliminated but something that needs to be managed

Often when we experience fear we focus more on trying to eliminate it than trying to manage it. People that succeed face the same fears as we face but they act despite their fears. Their process, unlike some of us, does not focus on eliminating the fear but focuses on managing the fear.

So aim to act despite the fear. I cannot tell you how many times in my life I have been afraid to speak in public however I acted despite the fear to a point where now I have mastered not how to be unafraid to speak in public but to act despite the anxiety and fear that I feel. Try doing the same in your life-: feel the fear and act despite it.

2. Realize that fear can be both rational and irrational

As people we have an internal conversation also known as self-talk. The little voice inside our head sometimes gives us messages that causes us to have doubt... then we begin to question ourselves - "maybe I shouldn't", "maybe it is not the right time right now", "what if this and what if that"... instead of acting we then leave the status quo and do nothing. Our lives don't change, we remain unhappy for years. Only to look back into our lives many years after and have regrets.

So improve your level of awareness regarding self-talk. The minute your internal voice tells you to doubt... stop and question yourself. Here are few questions to really ask yourself and overcome irrational fear, what am I really afraid of? What is the worst thing that can happen? Am I realistic or is fear ruling me?

3. Define your fear

Don't let fear get irrational define what it is that you are afraid off. If you were to quit your job, what would you afraid of, is it the fact that you won't find another job? Or is it just the imaginative discomfort of finding a new job. What about a new business, why would you afraid to start? So what if you fail and get broke... maybe you can get back to working. Define the fear. Once you define the fear you are in a better position to take the next step...

4. Make an action plan to manage your fear or just accept it

List your fears and make an action plan to resolve them.

If you want to start a business and you are worried you will lose money then make a plan to absorb the risk. Maybe you can have funds allocated in case you lose money or diversify your investment in some way.

If what you feel is just irrational fear (which might feel very real) as opposed to rational fear then accept the discomfort and act despite the fear. Make a contingency in your planning for the practical things that you are worried about, and accept any emotional discomfort that you might experience so that you are better able to act despite the fear. This will help you improve your self-confidence.

5. Take action and learn more about yourself

Often when we feel fear we make problems much bigger than what they actually are. We also forget that sometimes life decisions are about learning and improving as we might not always get things right the first time. So take action on your endeavours and be willing to have a learning attitude. This will help you overcome fear and improve your self-confidence.

I wish you the best of luck on your success journey.

Overcome fear.

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Phillip Ramphisa

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4 Ways to Deal With Change - Top Motivational Speakers - Phillip Ramphisa

 4 Ways to Deal With Change - Top Motivational Speakers - Phillip Ramphisa

If any one thing is guaranteed to happen in life, it is change. Change is part of our lives. From leaving primary school to joining secondary school to university, making new friends and forgetting our high school friends. Starting a new job. Change is just part of our lives no matter what we do. Sometimes change scares us. What if we lose somebody that we care about, what if our partners break up with us, what if we lose our job. What if?

This article aims to give you a few strategies to deal with change

1. Understand why change scares you

Awareness is King. Being aware helps us know the underlying reasons why we act the way we do and by so doing allows us to manage ourselves better. Nothing can be managed if we are not aware of it. If we know why we are not motivated or why we are concerned about change we can manage ourselves better. In the situation that you are facing it is therefore important that you pay attention to yourself and try to determine the underlying reasons why you are not excited about change. Most of the time you find that we are not happy about change because of the messages that we communicate in our minds to ourselves. We often think of the many things that might go wrong or not work. This makes us fearful, uncertain and as a result less excited.

2. Diffuse the negative

Now that you are aware the next thing to do is to deal with the negative things that you think change will bring. The best exercise to do is to write down all the negative things that you think change will bring and try to think of them logically. What you will find is that once you translate the negative things that you are thinking into paper all of them seem quite manageable and not as out of control as they seem when you just think about them from your mind. So write down what you think might not work and develop a strategy to deal with each of those things. For instance losing your job might mean you are not making money, what plan can you put in place to survive until you get the next job? Is there an investment that you can cash as emergency funds? How long will it take to get another job etc. Thinking logically around the problems helps with solutions and is empowering. Seating and worrying make the problem look worse. Even though you do need to sit and worry because that's a human thing to do it will help you to not allow yourself to do this too long.

3. Explore the opportunities brought by change

In order for you to deal better with change you have to try to think about what is positive. In a mist of change this will not be easy because you will be feeling awful. Despite this discipline yourself and think about what can be positive. Remember every change has positive elements no matter how devastating. Getting fired might mean plenty of time to start pursuing your other business interests or it might mean more time with family whilst you look for another job. Breaking up from a relationship could present an opportunity to focus on your career. Moving to a new town might mean you will have new opportunities that you did not have in your previous city, new friends, new hangout spots etc. I am not saying that change should be simplified to just something positive. I am aware that it affects your life. What I am saying is that there are opportunities within change that can always be explored

4. Use past experiences to keep yourself going

We all have past experiences when we thought that things were worse. As it happened we got out of these things and lived-on. Remembering in a time of present difficulty that whatever challenge you are facing will also come to pass can help you get the strength and courage needed to carry on. So use the past wisely and remember that whatever you are facing will come to pass.

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3 Ways to Begin Finding Your Passion - Top Motivational Speakers - Phillip Ramphisa

 

History has shown it over and over again that those who find their passion early on become extraordinary. The reason they become extraordinary is simple, they start early and therefore invest a lot of time on their passion. Anything you spend more time on gets done better and better. Not to mention that they have fun working harder because they do not feel the sweat as they are passionate about what they do. It becomes no surprise therefore when these people become good at what they do and become the best in the world. There are a lot of examples in on this subject, Usher was singing at 14 years, Rafael Nadal played professional tennis at 15, Justin Bieber was singing at 12 years old. The list goes on. By the way this isn't only limited to athletes and musician. Even some engineers and best inventors started young including Steve Jobs.

The people mentioned above are people who we know about. And it is easy to talk about them because music and entertainment are an easy interest that we all share. The truth is finding passion can be just about anything including being a good mathematician or engineer or public speaker at a very young age. The only difference is that these kinds of passions aren't shared as much with the world like sports, movies and music. Also the environment is such that one would have to go through school and varsity to exercise these passions in a very meaningful way because this is how the world works at the moment. All of the people who have found their passion whether famous or not share something in common though. They are happier, they are respected and they are widely successful.

No matter what your passion is, whether it is one that can be shared with the world or one that can change the lives of few people, if you find it early on this will help you succeed. So how do you find passion? The answer to this is very broad. There are also subject expects on the issue such as Sir Ken Robinson. I believe sometimes though that simple things make a difference in our lives so I would like to share with you a few steps that I think can help you towards your journey:

1. Throw the question of finding your passion to your mind

The mind is a wonderful thing. When it is asked the right questions it has a way of finding the answers. So the first step in finding your passion starts in asking yourself the question regarding what your passion is. You do not have to wait for the answer right there and then just keep asking yourself this question and pay attention to your excitement and energy levels when you do various things. Take note of the things that you do effortlessly and spend all day doing without losing interest. This has to be done in a sensible manner and not be confused with things that give you pleasure but that may not be your passion such as hanging out and drinking beer.

2. Be present and aware of simple moments of brilliance

Often people who find their passion have had some moments in their lives that hinted their outstanding ability. So another way to find your passion is to pay attention to these key moments. Did you win a debate competition in school? Did you enjoy the process of engaging in the debate? Was it effortless. Perhaps then that is your passion?

You may find that people find it easy to talk to you and they find that you understand them easily. If you also enjoy dealing with people perhaps that could be your passion. All you need to do is to find something structured that can allow you to use your passion such as volunteering to offer counselling to people or being a psychologist.

If you find that you like tearing electronic gadgets apart and fixing them. Provided that the process is something that you do effortlessly and can spend hours on it and still feel like you are having fun then maybe your passion is right there.

The above are just few examples. Finding passion goes much deeper than what we can give in a one paged article. The important thing though is that the sooner you start thinking about your passion the sooner you might find it. When strength combines with passion you will become successful in whatever you do. When you do this much sooner and much younger you have a chance of becoming the best in the world.

3. Ask people who know you well what they think you can do

This strategy may not help you find your passion however it will do a very important thing which is to get you to start thinking about your passion. When you ask people who know you well what you can do well, you will hear a lot of answers that at a surface cannot be useful. However this can help you start thinking about what they say. When you start thinking about what they say you will be engaging your mind to finding your passion as it filters the information. As I said before just engaging your mind in finding your passion is enough to get you started and will be helpful in a longer term.

There is more to finding passion because passion without strengths is not a perfect combination. Equally having strength on something without having a passion will not help much. We write this article not to help you have answers today on finding your passion. Instead we write to help you start thinking about your passion because this will help you find it one day and truly become happy and successful.

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The Essential Skill for Your Leadership Success - Top Motivational Speakers - Phillip Ramphisa

 The journey of leadership starts with not allowing the environment to control you or to change who you are. All leaders have this in common... a leader gets imprisoned for 27 years and he comes out of jail to preach unity because the environment didn't change him. No need to say who this is. We have also seen other great leaders such as Mahatma Gandhi showing resilience and not allowing the environment to change them.

If you let the environment change you then you are not in control because anything can be done by another person and make you end up upset or angry and have negative emotions. When you have negative emotions you will not be able to fulfil your true potential and become the kick-s person that you were meant to be.

So how do you let the environment not control you? First thing you got to do is to stop being a robot with automated responses to situations. What I mean by that is that just because someone is being mean to you because they're not in a good mood or they just don't have great life does not mean you have to respond to the situation negatively. Just because the environment that you are in is negative does not mean you have to allow that to make a negative person.

Choose your responses and do not allow them to be automated, don't operate on auto pilot. To do this, ask yourself questions that are positive instead of giving yourself negative messages. So instead of thinking someone is mean to you and they don't like you... start thinking about what you are learning from the situation, what your conscious response should be, whether whatever it is that they do is worth your energy etc. Once you do this self-reflection you will start noticing that you are more in control. The benefit of this is that your leadership potential will increase. People will respect you more and mostly you will be in control. No autopilot

When the environment around you is negative don't let it change you. You do that by telling yourself the right messages... asking yourself the right questions. What do I learn, how can I use my abilities to influence the environment. Don't be on autopilot.

When the environment around you is negative be the light because the light does not change when it gets to darkness... it remains shining. Imagine what would happen if the light changed to darkness whenever it reached a dark environment... the world would be darker.

If you allow yourself to be changed by the environment you are denying the world your abilities and talents that can only be if you remain who you are. So choose your responses and give yourself the right messages. If someone acts mean to you realize that it is not about you... it is about them and their low standards. Maybe they had a bad day, maybe they are not happier in their lives... you do not have to be unhappy because of them. You have your own journey... don't react, don't be on autopilot.

Use this strategy in your social life as well as your working life and try to remain happy no matter what.

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